Queens Don't Chase Jesters: Stop Settling for Clowns

 

I have learned a lot of things in my life, but I can honestly say that this was never one of them. Until now. I made excuses for the shitty behavior, gave the "benefit of the doubt", believed that they were just dealt a bad hand and with my support and love - I could fix it all. What this method of operation has gotten me is:  cheated on, abused, lied to, manipulated, financially destroyed, emotionally destroyed and more. Why?  Because I didn't see myself as the Queen and I didn't act like one either. So here's my advice based on what I've learned and a practice that I've put into place in my life now............... 

Queens Don’t Chase Jesters: Stop Settling for Clowns

Let’s get real, ladies.
There’s a quiet epidemic running wild in the dating world—and it’s not the lack of good men. It’s the number of Queens acting like servants, court jesters, and peasants just to get crumbs of male attention.

Somewhere along the way, too many women forgot who they are.

Maybe you’ve been there:
He watches your story but doesn’t text. You get excited.
He sends a "u up?" at 11:47 PM. Your heart races.
He tells you he’s "not ready for anything serious" but keeps coming around—and you hang on, hoping he’ll change.

Girl, no. Queens don’t beg. Queens don’t chase. Queens don’t try to build a kingdom with a clown.

1. A Queen Knows Her Worth—Without Needing to Prove It

A Queen walks in a room like she owns it—not because she’s arrogant, but because she understands what she brings.
She knows her presence, peace, heart, body, mind, and spirit are not cheap gifts to throw at every man who smiles her way.

Desperation makes you reach. Confidence makes you attract.

Let this sink in:
If you ever feel the need to convince a man to see your value…
He’s not your King. Period.

2. Court Jesters Entertain. Kings Build.

Jesters are charming. Funny. Slick with their words. Masters of entertainment.
But what they don’t do is invest.
They don’t build foundations. They don’t protect. They don’t create legacy.

That man who texts but never plans? Jester.
The one who "doesn’t believe in titles"? Jester.
The one who treats you like a convenience, not a queen? Jester.

A real King has purpose. Vision. Direction.
He’s not just in your life for laughs—he’s there to stand beside you, shoulder to shoulder.

3. Desperation Smells. And Predators Notice.

When you radiate lack—lack of boundaries, lack of standards, lack of patience—you become a beacon for users, liars, and commitment-phobes.

It’s not because you’re unlovable. It’s because you’ve left the palace gates wide open for thieves.

A Queen moves slow. Selective. She watches. She vets.
She doesn’t confuse attention with intention.

4. Not Every Man Deserves a Seat in Your Throne Room

A Queen’s time, body, and heart are the royal court.
Not everyone gets invited in.

Stop handing out queen-level benefits to men who haven’t proven they can sit beside you with honor.

Sex is access.
Your daily energy is access.
Your loyalty is access.

Only a King gets the full crown treatment. Everyone else stays outside the gate until they rise to the occasion—or get left in the dust.

5. Real Kings Want Queens. Not Maidens Begging for Rescue.

A high-value man—a real King—is not looking for a woman he has to “fix.”
He’s looking for a woman who’s already standing tall, running her life, commanding her peace, and glowing without him.

A King wants to add to you—not save you.

If you lower your crown to chase, beg, or prove, you shrink your own throne. Stop that.
Wear the crown. Hold the standard. And let the men who cannot meet you fall away like dust.

Final Truth: Queens Don’t Chase. They Reign.

Here’s the secret:
When you act like a Queen—when you sit high on your throne and make your peace, joy, and boundaries non-negotiable—the jesters lose interest.

Why?
Because they can’t reach you.

A court jester wants low-hanging fruit. Easy attention. Fast flings.
A real King?
He sees the glow from your palace walls…and he steps up, crown in hand.

So sit tall.
Fix that crown.
Guard your palace.

The right King will find his way—or no man at all will disturb your peace.

Queen's Reminder Checklist (Pin This to Your Mirror):

✔️ I am the prize.
✔️ I don't chase, I attract.
✔️ My boundaries protect my throne.
✔️ I test intentions, not just words.
✔️ Kings build; jesters entertain.
✔️ I will not shrink to fit any man’s small world.
✔️ My worth is not up for negotiation.


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